There's a lot of change going on at the moment. Some may be change you're in control of, but a lot is change that's out of our control.

I went to see a fun film at the weekend called Easy Virtue. Without wanting to give too much away, at the end of the film, just as the heroine was running away from the situation she'd unwittingly got herself into, the Billy Ocean song, 'When the going gets tough, the tough get going' was played.

That may be heavily ironic, but to me, that song was about resilience. About noticing that change is happening and being determined to stick with it or even change direction to fight it.

This week's workshop is all about the Medieval Wheel of Fortune which very neatly shows us how change works. It'll help you understand where you are on the wheel in all aspects of your life and that it's pushing through and not running away that will get you through adversity.

It was one of the first workshops that I wrote and I'm sure you'll get a lot out of it - I always do. If you want to see a (slightly pedestrian) photo and have a further lightbulb moment, go to our blog.

Think of one change you consciously made recently. Is there anything you can think of that would have made that change easier?

I remember vividly the day I realised how one of my values was stopping me succeeding in the career I thought I wanted.

I was at a TV interview and was expected to condone this imaginary woman who was heavily in debt and didn't want to let her fiance know. Well, maybe I wasn't expected to condone her, but everyone else in the room was. 'It's fine to keep a few things from your partner' was the general gist of the conversation.

There and then I had my 'lightbulb moment'. Why was I even trying to get on in a medium where honesty is less important than drama when 'honesty' is one of my core values.

The difficulty with values is that they can get you into a lot of trouble. I changed my idea of what I wanted for the future pretty speedily right there and then, which was very helpful, but being honest isn't always a good thing. I feel awful when I tell my daughters that they don't look great in those jeans and then wish I could be less honest and more confidence-boosting.

If you'd like to find out where your values are helping you and where they're hindering you, come along this week. It's a workshop that will change your life. (Photo and further lightbulb moment on blog.)

Is there one value you'd like to acquire? And, if you did, where in your life would you use it?